My sis came through town yesterday on her way to Michigan. She’s starting a graduate program. I’m very proud of her. We’ve both found the true meaning of higher education: the ability to techno-babble at each other in different technical vocabularies and not understand anything.
I gave her the nickle tour and introduced her to the people in the lab. A visiting student commented, “Oh my, you two look nothing alike. I would never guess you were sisters.”
We’ve gotten that a lot over the years, and in many ways it is true.
- I have thin, fine hair that is low-maintenance.
She has thick wavy hair that takes an hour or more to style.
- She loves heels.
I hate them.
- I’m into science.
She’s into music.
- I love gardening.
She avoids gardening like the plague.
- I’m semi-organized and can focus even with three kids hollering, a television on, and dogs barking.
She struggles with ADHD and even before she had a child to add chaos, mess followed her like a devoted puppy.
- She quit playing with toys when she discovered boys around age ten.
I thought boys were idiots and really only fun to moon over from afar, and I plead the fifth on how long I continued to play with dolls.
I’m fairly certain the list could go on, and yet over the years as we grew up we found common ground. We both love Star Trek, and reading, and like each other’s career fields enough to have true interest, we enjoy the outdoors as much as we are allergic to it, and can even sometimes agree on music. As we walked at the park I caught her singing a few phrases of Pink‘s “Just Give me a Reason”, which I love, and randomly singing is also something I do.
I’m sure over the years my mother felt like bashing our heads together as we fought over whose mess had trashed the room yet again. My sis only has one child, an eleven year old boy, so far, and so she hasn’t had to deal with the joys of sibling wars. When the siblings are the same gender it seems to me that it adds an extra layer of love-hate to the relationship. One minute you’re best friends and the next one is smacking the other with a doll…or a fist…or whatever happens to be handy.
My sis and I managed to not kill each other and she’s as much a best friend as a sister. I’m proud of the woman she’s become.
When two people are by nature polar opposites, clashes happen frequently. My two girls, much like my sis and me, don’t look tons alike nor do they act it.
My girls way back when they were little bitty:
Did I mention that Miss Drama didn’t quit eating dirt until about age 5? Miss Diva began color coordinating outfits and three. Miss Drama preferred running naked.
My hope is that one day they’ll be adults and have found that common ground and realize just how lucky they are to have each other for friends, if they haven’t killed each other by then.