So, yesterday was sibling day. It’s a relatively new thing, and as far as I know, Hallmark has not turned it into a cash grab. Still, I suppose there’s a use for Hallmark in the world. The advertising reminds me of when the holidays are. Oh wait…. my phone does that. Sorry Hallmark. You’ve been outsourced to my phone and my handy dandy skill with words.
Well, at least the works for Nationally recognized holidays. Outsourcing is never a smooth process.
A long time ago, in galaxy far, far….
Wait… wrong story.
No, this story started in good ol’ Memphis, Tennessee in June of 1979. I ruined my parents’ plans for a Saturday picnic, and any shot at eating a warm dinner for about the next year. Soon enough, seeing as how my opinionated ways started early, I informed my parents I wanted a baby brother or sister. Sure, I was ever so slightly annoyed when I found out they didn’t pop out ready to play, but life has lots of surprises like that.
In 1981 my brother arrived and in ’83 my sister rounded things out to form our intrepid trio. Being a sibling is an odd sort of thing. Half the time you like them and the other half you want to kill them. As you grow that balance swings back and forth. If you are lucky, your siblings end up as people you like. If you are very lucky, they are your best friends.
In construction, the triangle is the strongest shape. 3 points. 3 children. 3 unbreakable bonds. Sometimes it was an equilateral triangle and sometimes isosceles, but it never, ever broke. For those who believe in magic, three is a number of power. The three of us together were far stronger than any of us alone.
As a kid and even into adulthood, I didn’t realize that not all siblings shared the bond that grew between my brother, my sister and myself. It’s sadly true, that far too often you do not really know what you have until you lose it.
In 1998 that triangle lost a point. As my sister so eloquently stated, “There’s an empty space in my life where my brother once was…..it was so much better when we were a trio.”
I’m the third dork on the left.
We don’t need sibling day to remind us how blessed we were to have each other, but it doesn’t hurt to use it to tell the world how wonderful mine were and always will be.